Irrational Parenting Fears

Do you ever get those moments that stop you in your tracks? When you start thinking about a parenting situation or event to such a ridiculously far fetched point and yet lose all sense of reality? You become utterly convinced it might happen.

Irrational Fears

So what are the utterly absurd things that I start thinking about, then lose five minutes of my life totally absorbed in fretting over? The things that make me truly doubt my parenting skills?

1) H will never be out of nappies.

He will be 3 in January. We do keep delicately encouraging but he is violently opposed to potty training. This has now led me to believe that he will be one of this kids you read about in a Daily Mail horror piece about teachers having to change nappies on 8 year olds.

Yes yes I know this is unlikely, but seriously – time keeps creeping by and he keeps saying NO!!!!!! each time the “P” word is raised.

Sometimes I wonder he’ll become one of those 40-year-old who like wearing nappies……

2) H will never stop using a dummy

Like with the above, he’s nearly 3. It’s not going anywhere. Sometimes I feel like I’m engaging in a fight to the death with a great white shark each time I attempt to pull it from his clamped shut jaws.

Irrational Parenting Fears

 Yes we know about the dummy fairy, I’ll get her to work as soon as the great white releases my hand from his jaws.

3) We will never have a lie in again

H wakes at 5.30am nearly every morning. During the week that’s fine, that’s when we have to get up for work. But at the weekend, oh how I would kill to sleep till 7am. Yes 7am is now a lie in to me.

Seriously, what have I become??

More seriously, will I ever be able to lounge in bed until 10am ever again?

4) Something I say or do will make H a serial killer.

Ever read “We Need to Talk About Kevin”? It’s enough to make your ovaries shrivel up like raisins and run for the hills. 

5) He will never grow

I am short. The hub isn’t the tallest. Yet everyone seems baffled that our child is not some sort of toddler version of Peter Crouch. Yet no matter how much I know he’s totally normal and fine, people’s “helpful” comments can’t help but make you obsess when they say it enough.

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 Anyone else have any ridiculous and irrational parenting fears?

Super Busy Mum
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  1. Mummy Whiskers
    September 11, 2014 at 10:54 (1 year ago)

    Love this, yes I have them too. My latest fear is that G will never stop breastfeeding. He is so stubborn that when I try to end the bed time feeds he has a total meltdown #MMWBH

  2. Jenny
    September 9, 2014 at 21:23 (1 year ago)

    Oh YES but mine sound way more ridiculous than yours so I wouldn’t even share what I fret about on a daily basis. lol But let me say you definitely are not the only one darling. We all do it on some level, daily. I was questioning my parenting skills majorly on Monday just one of those days that I felt very not equipped to be a parent of two! lol EEEK You are doing amazing, he will potty train. I was told boys take longer. And Buba is still diapers in the night and having accidents occasionally so H isn’t far behind at all! Promise. Thank for linking up to Share With Me. Sorry for the delayed commenting, this week has been hectic for me! 😉 Jetlag and sick babies and living room redecorating! lol No sleep for this one! #sharewithme
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  3. Super Busy Mum
    September 9, 2014 at 17:13 (1 year ago)

    Oh bless you and YES! I get those too, all.the.damn.time! I think its natural as we only want the best for our children and so much more. My youngest son is a shortly, will he grow? Who knows! I hope so but if he doesnt, there’s not really much I can do for him besides going all “The Twits” on him. Will my eldest girl stop being such an attention seeker? God I hope so and nobody likes one of those! Will my partner be a man and you know finally learn to use a drill? UNLIKELY! lol. The list goes on and on, its natural…

    Ace post hun, thanks so much for linking up with #MMWBH xx
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  4. Donna
    September 7, 2014 at 10:35 (1 year ago)

    Yep, completely irrational but we all have them. LP was potty trained a year ago but still has nappies at night, I worry that she’ll always wear them at night! x
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  5. Merlinda Little (@pixiedusk)
    September 6, 2014 at 12:16 (1 year ago)

    My son is late in potty training. He started pre-school still wearing his nappies and everyone is out of it. He is small. He is clumsy too. Bruise knees is a constant site on him. And when we visited the dentist he’s got cavities!!! So many of this things are hunting me late at night. It slowly sorted itself out. He is now potty trained. Behaves a wee bit better and still clumsy, still short, and we are working on the cavities. Now that he is starting school new worries would come up. Will he be okay? Is he going to have good grades or is he going to be unruly there? Motherhood, parenting is scary. #mmwbh
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  6. mummytries
    September 5, 2014 at 17:27 (1 year ago)

    Oh sweetie I can definitely relate, I’ve had my fair share of these kind of fears with my 5yo, still do have some tbh – sleep, meltdowns, allergies…

    My toddler will be three in Feb and is mostly against the potty. She sometimes announces out of nowhere that she wants to use it but more often that not treats it like it’s going to bite her… she’ll get there, and so will your boy xxx #PoCoLo
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  7. Mouse
    September 5, 2014 at 10:12 (1 year ago)

    Oh my, you’ve scared me! I’m only 11 weeks into parenting and I’m already fearful of doing things wrong and you’ve just pointed out that this doesn’t improve! Does anybody else spend half their life googling everything? Wonderful post though. I think people often don’t like admitting their parenting fears, but it’d be so much better if we were all a bit more honest about them. I’m certainly going to try. xx
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  8. Seychellesmama
    September 5, 2014 at 08:31 (1 year ago)

    Oh my god I love this!!!! The nappies made me laugh so much but also throw up in my mouth a little…’s so beyond weird that adult baby fetish thing Blugh!!!! I’m sure H isn’t going to be that guy though!!!
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  9. John Adams
    September 4, 2014 at 14:25 (1 year ago)

    Och, we all have fears. Mine is presently that my kids will never have exemplary table manners. Hopefully we’ll get there in the end but we’re a bit of a way off #MMWBH
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  10. Tarana
    September 3, 2014 at 22:12 (1 year ago)

    Oh, I am flooded with irrational fears! It’s funny what our mom brains can come up with to scare us completely. Currently, my biggest fear is that he’ll never be able to handle school life (or more accurately, I don’t want to let him go!).
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  11. Verily Victoria Vocalises
    September 3, 2014 at 22:12 (1 year ago)

    Eeek! I never really had those fears when Grace was small but these days I have loads more which probably makes up for the ones that I didn’t have (if you get what I mean!). I do feel your fear though! x
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  12. Yvette
    September 3, 2014 at 19:15 (1 year ago)

    Yes, I totally have irrational parenting fears – all the time! Your post is so well written and honest – I think, for me at least, it is partly from pressure I feel hearing about other babies, be it online, or friends or in a baby book. And then I look at my little boy and know, he is SO fine, and that they all end up at the same place, whether they potty trained at 2 or 3, or had a dummy or didn’t, or had no interest in walking at 15 months (speaking about mine here!)

    Also, I think people will always make comments, if it isn’t that he’s small, it’s that he’s tall. Our little boy is very tall, but you would think he was some crazy, giant monster baby the way some people go on! So it’s the opposite thing, but people always have something to say, annoyingly!

    I hope H has a lie-in soon, but definitely don’t worry about any of your fears, he sounds like a very normal, and very cute little boy to me! :) #sharewithme #madmidweekbloghop
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  13. Caroline (Becoming a SAHM)
    September 3, 2014 at 17:36 (1 year ago)

    Haha this made me chuckle, and um definitely! For a while it was about talking, now I seem to convince myself at times that something is going to happen to hubs and I and he will grow up parentless, honestly I then start bawling its a bit ridiculous!! Xx
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  14. Tim
    September 3, 2014 at 14:39 (1 year ago)

    3 and 4 are fairly regular occurrences in the deep dark recesses of my mind. Although I am now actually resigned to the fact that we probably will never have a lie-in again. And as for the serial killer, I’m right there already with both our youngest two. I really must hide all the sharp knives …
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  15. normaleverydaylife
    September 3, 2014 at 13:48 (1 year ago)

    How funny! I do this, too. Just this weekend, one of my children had a small burn on their leg. I wouldn’t let them swim in the lake because of a fear of some flesh eating bacteria. Who wants to be the mom that said yes to that when they need it amputated?!? I know, totally ridiculous. I figured sitting out one afternoon wouldn’t be the end of the world though! :) If you ever google anything, like the burn question, worst case scenarios are all you can think of!
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  16. Life at the Little Wood
    September 3, 2014 at 12:53 (1 year ago)

    Haha! This made me chuckle! We have been through all of these, and I promise you I also felt I’d have nappy wearing, dummy sucking 8 year olds. But it’s amazing what difference another year will make (promise!) Now my irrational fears concern them being lonely in the playground, or not being able to tie their laces. And I’m sorry to say the sleep issue is still haunting us. Let’s just live for the teenage years Siany – apparently they never want to get OUT of bed then! Great post chicky xx

  17. Laura Evelyn Bee
    September 3, 2014 at 11:45 (1 year ago)

    Ermmmmm yes, I have a long long list of parenting fears that is as long as my arm. They particularly like to hound me when I am tired (most of the time then). Completely irrational and crazy, but I think about them nonetheless!
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  18. mel @mydaysni
    September 3, 2014 at 11:41 (1 year ago)

    Plenty of irrational fears – so much so I dare not say them aloud! Many similar to yourself! I managed to get rid of the dummy though. When we went away for a weekend i said we forgot it – couldnt believe it worked – no problem! #sharewithme
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  19. suzanne3childrenandit
    September 3, 2014 at 11:23 (1 year ago)

    I get them all the time but these days they’re about my children needing therapy when they’re older and blaming all of their failings on me! Or worse, I untie the apron strings a little by letting them go into town or Thorpe Park then imagine all sorts of horrible scenarios resulting in the police knocking on my door. Why do we do this to ourselves?!
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  20. Sarah MumofThree World
    September 3, 2014 at 10:26 (1 year ago)

    Love this post! My irrational fears are all around travelling, days out and illness. I’m always convinced someone will be ill when we’re out (they never are).
    Just to reassure you, my eldest was just turned 3 when he mastered the potty, his younger brother was 2 and 8 months. It does happen in the end! We’ve never had dummies, but I’m embarrassed to admit how old my daughter was when she completely gave up baby cups with a lid. I’ll tell you she was at school, but I’ll leave it there.
    Re the lie-ins – you might find you end up like me. So many years of waking up early means I am now completely unable to have a lie-in! I wake up just after 5 and get up at 6 EVERY SINGLE DAY. I don’t even miss lie-ins any more. I like my peaceful 6am starts (because my kids sleep late now).
    People commenting on other kids’ size is just downright rude! My 13yo son’s friend came round the other day. He was significantly shorter than my 10yo and only just bigger than my 8yo. I told them in no uncertain terms before he came round they WEREN’T TO MENTION HIS SIZE. Poor kid must get it constantly.
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  21. Kim Carberry
    September 3, 2014 at 10:17 (1 year ago)

    Yes! I worried about all those things…..I never though my youngest would be out o f nappies or give her dummy up….She’s 7 and glad to say nappy & dummy free….Phew! I can’t believe I wasted so much time worrying about it. lol
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  22. Complicated Gorgeousness
    September 3, 2014 at 09:46 (1 year ago)

    Ah the joys of Motherhood! Being responsible for these little ones is a crazy old business. My little girl was a nightmare to potty train (so feisty) but we got there eventually – although she does still drag blanket around at 6 (the world hasn’t collapsed though). He looks pretty perfect to me :) x

  23. Notmyyearoff
    September 3, 2014 at 08:12 (1 year ago)

    Z didn’t start potty training till he was 3 and I was so worried about the whole nursery thing. They were so lovely about it though and he eventually did click after trying to get back into his nappu about a 100 times. Same with the dummy – he had it till he was 2 and I forgot all about the dummy fairy and ended up lying saying his Grandma had taken it and she’d bring it back the next day :) Poor kid!

  24. Sam
    September 3, 2014 at 07:46 (1 year ago)

    JJ was the same with potty training but for some reason I didn’t stress about it. I had bought him a pack of cute boy pants and one day soon after he turned three he started showing an interest in them and got the hang of it quite quickly. I have a shameful secret though – he still has a dummy at night!! At (more or less) five! We did the whole ‘give your dummies to Father Christmas’ last year but it just wasn’t going to work at night so I had to have an elaborate conversation with Father Christmas on the phone (on Christmas Eve – man that guy can multi task! ) and he agreed to a ‘nights only’ compromise. He’s supposed to be giving it up now he’s starting school and turning five but I do fear that he will still have it when he’s 18!! X #sharewithme
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  25. Eleanor (thebristolparent)
    September 3, 2014 at 07:18 (1 year ago)

    100% with you, on the dummy, the sleep and the height. She’s 17 months so a bit behind you, but has only just started to walk, and boy was I sick of the eyebrow raising and the ‘helpful’ comments. Sounds like you’re doing an immense job to me, just by considering these things shows that you care and are a great parent! #sharewithme

  26. Steph @ Sisterhood (and all that)
    September 3, 2014 at 06:48 (1 year ago)

    Yep! Things like will he always throw a bonkers fit if his sandwiches are cut in triangles not squares (or squares not triangles depending on the day, just to keep us on our toes). Will he be 20 and have no friends because we pandered to his weird sandwich cutting requests and people don’t want to be his friend. If it helps, I worry far less about the second. Poor neglected second children… And I ALWAYS worry about We need to talk about Kevin. The book is even more terrifying xx
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